Key #4:  Declare What You Want. And Feel It.

 

“Think and feel yourself there! To achieve any aim in life, you need to project the end-result. Think of the elation, the satisfaction, the joy! Carrying the ecstatic feeling will bring the desired goal into view.”   – Grace Speare

When you’re in an unsatisfactory situation at work, you may find yourself thinking a lot about what you don’t want. You could be thinking about your heavy workload, unpleasant colleagues, lack of autonomy, lack of opportunities or anything else that is bothering you.

That kind of negative thinking can easily lead you into the trap of making your situation worse. The more you think of what you don’t want, the more you’ll notice it. For example, if I’m thinking that I don’t want my colleagues to insult me, I will likely notice every insult they dish out. But if I think that I want people to appreciate me, I may be able to notice even subtle signs of appreciation.

So your assignment today is to shift your thinking to the positive side and feel the effects. Once you start thinking about what you want, you’ll be alert to new opportunities to create what you’re looking for, whether within your current situation or in a future position.

So, what do you want?

Start with the passion, the joy and the feelings you want. What makes you jump out of bed in the morning? What gives you a surge of energy? What supports you and nurtures you? What do you want to see, hear and feel?

Then start to flesh out your vision with the practicalities. Include all the basics such as industry, position, location and income. Include what’s important to you on the softer side, such as company culture, relationships, leadership styles, values and opportunities. Be as specific as you can. Refer to your list of what’s wrong and what’s missing from your current situation and make sure you include their opposites in your list.

If you’re not sure what you want in a certain aspect, identify everything that is important to you on that point. For example, if you are open to re-locating for the right kind of position, write down whatever criteria you have about the new location. Even if you say you would move ‘anywhere’, that may not be completely true. Declare whatever criteria you have.

You don’t need to know every detail about your next position. Just identify what’s important and then you can be open to discovering the many ways that your criteria can be met within this wide world we live in. The most important parts are what you feel most strongly, as those feelings and images will guide you to your desires.

Write it in the present tense to help you visualize what you want.

Declare what you want by writing it down. Be as specific as you can. In my ideal position, I live in …, I earn …, my boss is …, I manage/lead/analyze etc.

Make this an ongoing list that you can build on and improve as you learn more about what you want.

Tomorrow we’ll explain one more shift in thinking to change your perspective on you and your ideal job.

“The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it.”   – Mack R. Douglas

Want to know what previous students have said in response to Key #4?

A Sense of Calmness

Thinking about what I want from my work gives me a sense of calmness in that I feel I am doing something about my situation just by thinking about my vision of what I want . I live in a peaceful place away from the hectic city life of Hong Kong and do some of my work from home but travel into the city a few times a week for meetings/client meetings etc.

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:06:01+08:00

E-course Alum

Thinking about what I want from my work gives me a sense of calmness in that I feel I am doing something about my situation just by thinking about my vision of what I want . I live in a peaceful place away from the hectic city life of Hong Kong and do some of my work from home but travel into the city a few times a week for meetings/client meetings etc.

I Work for a Nice Boss

In my ideal next position, I work for a nice boss, be stable in income, perhaps manage just one or two persons and these subordinates are easy to manage, I earn enough $$$ to move to a better flat, have more savings. The most important thing is, my working environment is peaceful and pleasant (i.e. not severe competitions) while interacting with many people.

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:07:21+08:00

E-course Alum

In my ideal next position, I work for a nice boss, be stable in income, perhaps manage just one or two persons and these subordinates are easy to manage, I earn enough $$$ to move to a better flat, have more savings. The most important thing is, my working environment is peaceful and pleasant (i.e. not severe competitions) while interacting with many people.

A Flexible Work Culture

In my ideal position/ career: I live in a place/ city/ country where has job/ business opportunities; flexible work culture and friendly and motivated work environment with can also fit in my family life in future; I will earn and live above my means and able to contribute time and money to other in need in the society; My boss will not be too emotional, has vision, with good management skill, wise and has high level of integrity and a good motivator. Helpful and real.

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:08:41+08:00

E-course Alum

In my ideal position/ career: I live in a place/ city/ country where has job/ business opportunities; flexible work culture and friendly and motivated work environment with can also fit in my family life in future; I will earn and live above my means and able to contribute time and money to other in need in the society; My boss will not be too emotional, has vision, with good management skill, wise and has high level of integrity and a good motivator. Helpful and real.

My Job is Me

Declare what you want. And feel it.. work with passion oozing out of every pore . . . I am time rich and feel great. I fix my own schedule and prioritize my diary according to my financial needs. I live with my partner and we enjoy life . . . my kids visit and we all share our life’s anecdotes . . . I am not hugely rich but I am secure and comfortable in my body and mind and dwell not on negativity!!! I travel globally and speak with passion and wisdom . . . I am in demand . . . .My job is me!

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:10:23+08:00

E-course Alum

Declare what you want. And feel it.. work with passion oozing out of every pore . . . I am time rich and feel great. I fix my own schedule and prioritize my diary according to my financial needs. I live with my partner and we enjoy life . . . my kids visit and we all share our life’s anecdotes . . . I am not hugely rich but I am secure and comfortable in my body and mind and dwell not on negativity!!! I travel globally and speak with passion and wisdom . . . I am in demand . . . .My job is me!

Challenging Projects

In my ideal position, I live in a large city and have a short commute (30 min. or less) to work via mass transit. I earn enough money to cover our expenses and have some left over to save for the future (retirement/college for M). In my ideal position, I have an opportunity to work on a variety of challenging projects where I have a chance to contribute in a meaningful way. I have opportunities to continue to learn and grow. I am given the flexibility with regards to hours and work location in order to find balance between my work and home life.

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:12:18+08:00

E-course Alum

In my ideal position, I live in a large city and have a short commute (30 min. or less) to work via mass transit. I earn enough money to cover our expenses and have some left over to save for the future (retirement/college for M). In my ideal position, I have an opportunity to work on a variety of challenging projects where I have a chance to contribute in a meaningful way. I have opportunities to continue to learn and grow. I am given the flexibility with regards to hours and work location in order to find balance between my work and home life.

An Expert in My Field

My ideal position and career would be something that I could quite easily do either in Hong Kong or the UK. I want to do something that makes me an expert in my field (eventually anyway, not straight away!) and where my hard work is rewarded, both in terms of salary and recognition of others. Fundamentally, I want to do something that I would call a career rather than what I would just call a job!

E-course Alum

Loving Your Work
2016-04-21T22:13:40+08:00

E-course Alum

My ideal position and career would be something that I could quite easily do either in Hong Kong or the UK. I want to do something that makes me an expert in my field (eventually anyway, not straight away!) and where my hard work is rewarded, both in terms of salary and recognition of others. Fundamentally, I want to do something that I would call a career rather than what I would just call a job!
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